what my 40's taught me...so far :)

Life and its experiences proves to be a unending source of opportunities to learn and grow. I sometimes reflect on the mistakes, assumptions, beliefs, etc that I held so passionately to in my 20's and cringe a little at how green I really was....but what is life if not a learning curve. While none of us look forward to growing older and all of those physical signs of maturing (hello little lines framing my eyes!) I have arrived in a space where I am comfortably settled into who I am and I am grateful for the wisdom that comes with getting older and all of life's experiences. To honor that I thought I'd share a list of things I have learned now that I am solidly in my 40's :-)

1. the only person I really want to be anymore is me
2. I am finally comfortable in my own skin (goodbye comparing myself to others!)
3. any changes that I want to make to myself, physical or otherwise are based on internal desires, screw external pressures to conform
4. I am grounded in my religious beliefs and feel no need to justify, explain or defend those beliefs
5. people are not weekend home depot projects for me to "fix up" - it is not my responsibility to fix anyone
6. live and let live - no really, it's important to let others be who they are and where they are without passing them through the filter of "shoulds" and "coulds" - this rule applies particularly to self
7. nostalgia is a lying bitch- don't lose precious time in the present by getting lost in the glorified memories of a "better time" in the past
8. I used to focus on the big events in life as my defining moments, squandering the space between them, I now know that the narrative of my life is not in the big events but the simple, sacred parts of my daily living (helping with homework, conversations at bed time and over meals, cheering on at games and beaming with pride at recitals)
9. gratitude is transformative
10. forgiveness of self and others is the next right thing to do
11. the deepening lines on my face, around my eyes are not a sign of getting old but tell the story of how much I have laughed and smiled
12. listen more, talk less
13. if what I have to say does not improve upon the silence, don't say it- become comfortable with silence - silence is beautiful
14. the key to raising happy children is unconditional love- this foundation must be present and unwavering before anything else can be accomplished
15. how I define an exciting life has broadened to include a 9pm bedtime
16. at the risk of sounding all "woo woo" be the change you wish to see in the world (Ghandi) no really - after years of wishing others would be different I have learned that if I want to see a change, then let it begin with me
17. I no longer apologize for my opinions and ideas - as long as I  share them respectfully they are a reflection of who I am
18. my attitude is my choice - people can't "make me feel" if I don't allow it
19. how people treat you is more about them than you
20. I'm so glad I never got breast implants or I would surely suffocate in many of my favorite yoga poses (should stands :-))

No doubt this list will grow as I look to the second half of this amazing time in my life .... and I look forward to it!

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life.is.good

there are so many blessings filling my life that I wonder if another days worth will surely cause my heart to burst from joy

I move through my days with the steady breath of contentment that flows in tandem with my movements

my hearts wings lift me, giving me a birds eye view of my own little slice of heaven on earth as I go about my daily rounds

my gratitude for this is immeasurable

I'll humbly express my deepest thank you by reveling in every detail

re entry into the blogosphere

For the most part I have been on a sabbatical since the first of the year. Having made some big decisions about life and careers etc. it felt necessary to pull away and settle into some of those decisions while allowing time and space for those uncertainties I was struggling with to settle out. Time and experience has taught me that while I am not a patient person and am inclined to force decisions for the sake of closure, some decisions truly require room to breath, to evolve and come into their own. When I can let go and find peace in the space between, I am always pleased by what transpires and the final decision usually ends up being something I would have never imagined had I insisted on forcing it.

While I am still in that space between with some decisions, others have become clear and I look forward to returning this space to share parts of this story that I continue to create day by day.

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gratitude

today, at the end of your day, make it a point to jot down a small list of things that happened in your day that you are grateful for - then do it again tomorrow and the next day - before you know it your perspective of your own life will be changed and you'll know and feel gratitude for the life you live - gratitude has to be one of the most transformative forces in our universe ‪